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Marriage and Commitment
by Spaventa Impego
http://www.abcmarriage.com
'Man is a social animal', so to keep the society going there
are several social institutions like marriage. Marriage is
essentially a social institute. For as long as we think of
human existence marriage has been there. Perhaps it started
with Adam and Eve. Marriage is a life long commitment of
love, respect and belongingness. It is the ultimate
sacrifice of love, an entire life of commitment, and the
true sign that you have and give unconditionally all of
yourselves to that one person.
Marriage is not just part of the Karmic cycle giving a
license to reproduce. It is a very important aspect of one's
life. It is like a big gamble. You are sort of taking
chances of committing a lifetime to someone who might turn
it into a joyous smooth journey or just simply make it a
burden to carry. It is important to get married, as the
research shows that people who don't' get married at the
right age or who don't marry at all, suffer from a kind of
emptiness that leads to frustrations. With marriage comes
family and with family responsibilities. These
responsibilities effortlessly become the goal of life,
giving direction to our work. Thus, it's a complete cycle, a
sequential flow of facts of life.
Like every relationship and aspects of life, marriage also
has its own share of rough patches. But it is up to us as to
how we keep this relationship going not just smoothly but
also healthily blooming into a bond. The very foundation of
any marriage is love. Now, love is out of mutual respect and
trust. So, trust your spouse and most importantly respect
him or her as an individual.
It is seen many times that either or both of the spouses get
too possessive about each other. Remember it might just
choke both of you and your relationship. Every relationship
has to have its own intimacy but at the same time allowance
for a personal space is a must. Also, remember there would
be times when both of you fight and find it just so
impossible to stand each other. Even in these situations
keep out the third party involvement. It is both of you who
have to solve and keep the bond afresh. Arguments and fight
are also important for a relationship to flourish since it
rinses out hard feelings but never let it go out of hand. Do
not get to the limit of bring in your egos.
Sex and physical intimacy is almost synonymous with
marriage. So don't let the flame die out. At times you can
move away from being "Man and wife". Try to be those
proverbial lovers. A touch here, a kiss there, and a few
gentle caresses - all make up for momentary connections that
draw you together. Sex should not be an activity, a mundane
work part of daily routine, or once a day, once a week
regime. Lot of foreplay and lot of sensitivity with lot of
attention to what you both want and like and surely the fire
is going to blow off the lids.
You must spend as much time together as possible. Be
proactive to each other's needs and desires. Do not argue on
money. Do not ever fight in front of kids. Never hide
anything from each other or develop a communication gap. Mix
up all these small little recipes of great moments of
togetherness and strong relation and you get a melange of a
timeless bond and a relationship envied by many.
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