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Divorce doesn't'thave to be the solution
by Ralph Crainer
http://www.divorcey.com
It's a hard process to work out problems in a marriage, but
not without benefits and hope. When you're faced with the
hard times of a marriage, you might think that divorce is
your only option, but this isn't the case for everyone.
The power of dialogue
Open and honest communication is the key and by this I
don't mean yelling and screaming at each other. Identify
your problems with your partner with a cool head and
reserve judgment.
No two couples have the same problems or issues that need to
be addressed. Some may have problems with trust and honesty
in a relationship while others have issues relating to
intimacy. Whatever the case, talk it out openly and
honestly. Make you needs and feelings known to your partner.
If you can't'tseem to have a discussion without it
degenerating into a fight, try writing letters to each other
Wait until both of you have read before you say your piece.
You will be astonished at how alike your views are.
Seeking professional help
A trained marriage counselor can be the best help for many
troubled couples. The unbiased observations and access to
methods of healing can give you both something to work
toward fixing and create a stronger bond in the long run.
Support of your family and friends can be source of great
comfort during this difficult period. Talk freely with them
and don't'treact negatively to any criticism. Just make sure
your friends have your best interest at heart.
If everything else fails
If nothing seems to work and your relationship with your
partner is getting worse, it may be time to think of a
divorce. What often happens is that couples rush into
divorce without trying to work through their problems first.
But many times, marriages can be saved and helped with
communicating and working together to rebuild the marriage.
Having said that, remaining married despite irreconcilable
differences, for the sake of the children is normally not
the best alternative. Children irrespective of age perceive
the conflict between their parents and the ensuing sadness
that pervades the home. Having to grow up in that atmosphere
is not right or healthy for the children.
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